Psychological Tools to Help Victims of MMM to Cope in These Trying Times

A concerned Nigerian has shared useful tips of pain relief for subscribers of the Mavrodi Mondial Moneybox which has frozen the accounts of members for a month.

 

 

This is just my own little way of helping hundreds of thousands of Nigerians who are presently in a state of uncertainty over their future in MMM.

 

My explanation might help calm some nerves and prevent some possible suicides, depression or other mental or psychosomatic illnesses as a result of this MMM uncertainty. 

 

This tool is credited to Kubler-Ross, a Swiss American Psychiatrist and pioneer of near death studies. It talks about the series of emotions experienced after a loss (or imminent loss as is the case of MMM right now) and how to cope.

 

Stage 0. SHOCK STAGE: Most of MMM participants have passed this stage right now.

 

Stage 1. DENIAL STAGE: Most of MMM participants are in this stage right now. This stage helps us to survive the loss. In this stage, the world becomes meaningless and overwhelming. Life makes no sense. There is a grace in denial. It is nature’s way of letting in only as much as we can handle. As you accept the reality of the loss and start to ask yourself questions, you are unknowingly beginning the healing process.

 

Stage 2. ANGER: Most MMM participants will get to this stage by January. Anger is a necessary stage of the healing process. Be willing to feel your anger, even though it may seem endless. The more you truly feel it, the more it will begin to dissipate and the more you will heal.

 

Stage 3. BARGAINING: At this stage, we want life returned to what it was. We want to go back in time, thinking that 'can I wake up and just realise that this has been a dream ll along'. 

 

If only, If only, if only, If only... The “if onlys” cause us to find fault in ourselves and what we “think” we could have done differently. We may even bargain with the pain. We will do anything not to feel the pain of this loss. We remain in the past, trying to negotiate our way out of the hurt.

 

Stage 4. DEPRESSION: After bargaining, our attention moves squarely into the present. Empty feelings present themselves. This depressive stage feels as though it will last forever. It’s important to understand that this depression is not a sign of mental illness.

 

Final Stage 5. ACCEPTANCE: Acceptance is often confused with the notion of being “all right” or “OK” with what has happened. This is not the case. This stage is all about accepting the reality of our loss and accepting that the new reality is the permanent reality. We begin to see how life must continue. We begin to see how we can regain more of our losses even though it might not be as it was supposed to be. We tell ourselves, LIFE CONTINUES.!! HOLLAAAA!!! HURAYYYYY!!!!

 

- Dr. Ola John. [Public Health Advocate]

 

References - 

Kaplan & Sadock's Comprehensive Textbook of Psychiatry.

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