If you listen to relationship programmes on radio, you would notice that many Nigerians are indeed struggling with their relationships and marriages and they are all seeking help. And because they do not have a glaring media attention serialising their issues, making judgments, giving strong commentary, poking them emotionally, there are chances of their relationships and marriages problems being solved.
Why is it that with the fame, fortune and good looks, our celebrities’ marriages still don’t work? It has been a strange phenomenon that the union of people in the limelight hardly lasts, indeed. So the question is, why do most celebrity marriages crash frequently?
Fame is dangerous to relationships for
many reasons. Most troubling is that it demands that a couple spend time
away from each other. One indicator of happiness in a relationship is
the amount of time spent with one’s partner.
Spending time together is necessary to
sustain a relationship, yet celebrities tend to ignore this and only
focus on how to become more famous. You need to keep up with each
other’s lives, look into each other’s eyes, and be in the same physical
space to feel the mood and emotions from each other.
Without that, you might love each other, but staying “in love” demands much more than occasional get-together.
The man who loves you may start losing
feelings because of the demands of your job. Your spouse, for instance,
wants you to be home, but you cannot be at home because you are either
on location or at one event or another socialising as a celebrity.
Celebs are expected to be extroverts –
attending parties, or going to bars or clubs. Your spouse may not like
all that. These things take their toll and it gets to a point when one
of the parties says that he or she has had enough, and then packs his or
her bag and leaves.
Most celebs don’t really take time to
understand each other or truly understand what marriage is about before
venturing into it. Some even see it as just an added feather to their
cap. They love to gather people together, go to church and stand before
the altar to exchange vows in front of the congregation. There is
actually more to marriage than the physical appearance.
The pressure to live up to certain
standards and give a good impression also contributes to marital splits
among celebs. Because of their status, they put too much unnecessary
pressure on themselves and try too hard to live up to the standard of
others.
Most tend to live a life that is not
theirs. The pressure of wanting to create or give people the impression
of having a sense of perfection will certainly make your marriage
crumble. Put a stop to all the pretence and be real to yourself.
Infidelity is the most common cause of
most celebrity marriage break-ups in Nigeria. Some spouses have left
their marriages when they could no longer bear the indiscretions of
their unfaithful partners.
Infidelity is not restricted to
celebrities only. It is a major source of marital discord today. But
what makes that of celebrities different is the temptation they face
regularly. Because of living their lives constantly in the spotlight and
fame, they are presented with more ‘opportunities’ to cheat than
others.
When musicians, for instance, go for
shows, girls throw themselves at them. Even a Reverend Father can get
tempted with all the ‘offerings.’ If one partner is constantly
unfaithful, it can cause discord in the marriage.
Jealousy is also a problem in celebrity
union. If one, for instance, has more fame, more success than the other,
it can cause problems if the other party does not have the strength of
character to cope with his or her partner being constantly in the
limelight.
It takes a very strong man or woman to
endure his wife, for instance, being more famous, getting more attention
than them. You attend a party, and your husband or wife observes you
being embraced and kissed here and there, jealousy starts getting into
the marriage. It doesn’t even matter if both of you are celebrities.
Put your ego aside. As celebs, you’re
going to be constantly fighting for the limelight. But marriage is all
about concessions, even if it takes one of you to have to ride in the
backseat for awhile for things to work out.
Money is the root of most problems in
marriages. When your wedding planning starts taking the shape of a
corporate board meeting, you’re already in trouble. Play deaf to the
rumours. Celebrities are always insecure about one thing or another, and
it is the reason a lot of media rumours are going to tear your already
shaky relationship to shreds. Stop selling your privacy in pictures, on
Twitter, Instagram or Facebook.
Choose whether you want to remain single
or get married. Marriage is hard when you are used to being in control
all the time. But suddenly you can’t just wake up one morning and jet
off to Abuja or London for a weekend with your friends or spend N100,000
on a pair of shoes without certain considerations.
When you’re used to being the centre of
your world, it is not easy to take that step back and let someone else
have a major stake in your life.
Like every electronic device, marriage
comes with a manual which must be followed to the letter if you want it
to be successful. Celebrity marriages will continue to crash as long as
they are building them on themselves and not on God, who is the
initiator of marriage.
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