Have Never, And Will Never Have sex” – Says 35-Year-Old Woman Who Is Not Attracted To Men Or Women (PHOTO)
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The writer, who lives alone in a two-bedroom apartment, states that she is not interested in dating or pursuing a domestic partner.
‘I have very close friendships but don’t want a significant other. I don’t want to find another asexual to be roommates with.
‘As far as I can tell I’ll be happy being single my whole life.’
In a YouTube video, Miss Decker says that as a young teenager she kissed and cuddled both boys and girls.
But she concluded: ‘I never found anything
that floated my boat.’ She says that her family were convinced that she was a ‘closet lesbian’.
Before she went to college her mother even
took her to the doctors because she wasn’t expressing ‘normal’ interest in the opposite s*x.
Given the all-clear she carried on with her studies, graduating from the University of Florida in 2000 with a degree in elementary education and psychology.
She said despite there being more awareness about asexuality today, it still remains largely misunderstood.
She’s had male friends try and ‘fix’ her by kissing her against her will and many insist that she will ‘wake up one day’.
Since opening up about being asexual on the
internet, via YouTube and her blog, Miss
Decker says that she’s received death threats
and been told by several commentators that
she just needs a ‘good defiling.’
‘When people hear that you’re asexual, some
take that as a challenge,’ she told the
Huffington Post.
‘We are perceived as not being fully human
because s*xual attraction and s*xual
relationships are seen as something alive,
healthy people do.
‘They think that you really want s*x but just
don’t know it yet. For people who perform
corrective r*pe, they believe that they’re just
waking us up and that we’ll thank them for it
later.’
Miss Decker says that asexuality presents itself
in many forms. Some people, while lacking
s*xual attraction to any gender, may engage in
purely romantic relationships.
However, she defines herself as ‘aromantic’,
meaning she does not have any romantic
feelings either.
Professor Bogaert, an associate professor at
Brock University in Ontario, Canada, suggests
in his book Understanding Asexuality, that
around one per cent of the world’s population
– 70million people – are ‘asexual.
He believes that this demographic are ‘under-
studied’ and that they can feel excluded from
our ‘very sexualised culture’.
Experts say a certain number of asexuals may
have always existed but are only now starting
to ‘come out’ as society becomes more liberal.
To her ‘haters’, Miss Decker concludes: ‘I’m not
damaged, lonely or in need of a conversion
because I’m not interested [in s*x].’
She hopes to raise awareness about asexuality
through her writing and public speaking.
‘[I want] people who feel similarly to know
they’re not alone.’
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